Have you ever wondered why people want to hide their imperfections? Why they strive to have the “perfect” body, the “perfect” significant other, the “perfect” family? Where do we find these standards of perfection and why do we allow ourselves to measure ourselves to something that doesn’t exist?
I wouldn’t say that I’m a perfectionist, but I do want the best out of life. I catch myself at times measuring myself and sometimes others to this crazy standard. Who am I trying to impress? What am I trying to prove? I’ve battled with these same questions the past couple of years and it isn’t an easy fight.
It’s been a long time coming, but I have finally learned that being perfect doesn’t exist.
Really, the only person who is perfect is Jesus Christ himself. When I started to learn this principle that “we all make mistakes” and “we all are flawed/broken”, I started to have more grace with myself. Forgiving yourself is the most freeing thing you can do.
Perfectionism makes you feel like you’re inferior, like you’re not enough, like you’ll never measure up. I always felt like I had to hustle for everything. Hustle for worthiness. Hustle to have people like me. Hustle to get approval from people who I can never win their approval. The ‘hustle’ is very exhausting and it took a toll on me.
Imagine yourself on a hamster wheel and you keep running and running and running and running and running and it never stops. You finally ask yourself, “When is enough, enough?” That’s when I started to go to work on myself because I just got tired of being ‘sick and tired’
What has and continues to help me?
I’m so passionate about self-development and improving your mindset. Why? It all starts with our mind. Have you ever questioned your thoughts? Ever wonder how you can be better at seeing yourself as whole? Trust me, you’re going to have to do a lot of digging and you’ll get hurt so many times. But when you pull out the weeds (negative self-talk & thoughts), you start to see the world differently.
I read a lot of great books (some of them spiritual in nature) like, Battlefield of the Mind by Joyce Meyer or Unqualified by Steven Furtick. You can also read books by Brené Brown (I mention a couple of her books in my post Because You’re Worth It here). Reading these books help me understand a lot of what I was going through and that other people faced the same battles as me. They also have great principles that you can apply to your life so you can put them to practice.
I also recommend listening to uplifting and empowering podcasts on a daily basis to help cultivate your mind in a positive way. One podcast I like to listen to is Oprah’s Super Soul Sundays. If you know Oprah, she’s just one hell of an interviewer. But she’s also like a spiritual mother to me. The guest she has on her show come from all different backgrounds and they share their philosophy of purpose, life, and success.
Our flaws make us beautiful. It makes us human.
Embrace what God has given to you because your story will help someone who’s facing the same battle you’re going through. I’m still on my journey and I will never arrive, but I do hope that this post will encourage you in some way. If you’ve also experienced the “perfection” monster, share your story below in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!
What I’m wearing: Zara Striped Shirt, Black Jeans, and Black Snakers. Christian Dior Sunglasses