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Because You’re Worth It

SimplyKenjay, Contact, Minimal Fashion, Minimal street style
SimplyKenjay, Contact, Minimal Fashion, Minimal street style
SimplyKenjay, Contact, Minimal Fashion, Minimal street style
SimplyKenjay, Contact, Minimal Fashion, Minimal street style
SimplyKenjay, Contact, Minimal Fashion, Minimal street style
I used to be obsessed with wanting to be in a relationship and meeting the “right” guy for many years. It wasn’t until I started focusing on developing a better self-worth that I began to realize that I do not need a man to make me happy. When I get the question, “why are you still single?”, it’s as simple as this: Self-respect. I’ve built myself up enough to recognize my worth and to not let anyone come into my life to destroy what I’ve worked hard to build.

In a culture of “show me yours and I’ll show you mine”, I’m constantly reminding myself that “my worth is priceless” and should be recognized as so. But not every person will see it for what it’s worth. That’s why it’s important that you work on yourself to start developing the belief that you are worth it.

I’m not an expert of having “The Best Self-Worth” in the world, but I do have some helpful advice that I’ve learned on my journey:

  1. You’re going to Fail, ALOT. You’re learning who you are and you’re probably going to fall many times. But if you’re actively reflecting on those experiences and asking yourself “What did I learn?” You begin to extract the wisdom of your experiences and you’ll start to use it towards your next relationship.
  2. Understand that it’s a Process. Once you understand that developing your self-worth is journey not a destination, it will give you a sense of peace of knowing that it’s not going to happen overnight. Take this process of growth one day at a time.
  3. You’re not alone in this! Find those people in your life who are there to support you through it all.  A little bit of encouragement goes a long way and we all need someone who’ll tell us what we NEED to hear not what we WANT to hear.
  4. Believe that YOU ARE ENOUGH. I’ve read Brene Brown‘s books “The Gifts of Imperfection” & “Daring Greatly” and she explains in depth why we experience the “Not Enough” narrative and it’s because of shame. Growing up being gay I got sucked up into that narrative and I had to do a lot of digging to weed out the negative thoughts I had of myself. Shame is real and this book helped me to understand it. I highly recommend reading these two books because it has helped me beyond in recognizing who I am as a person and that I Am Enough.

I’m at a point in my life where I am enjoying the #SingleLife. I’m learning how to keep my self-worth in tact while navigating the terrain of “Millennial Dating” Once you know your worth, you find a new found confidence and it’s wildly scary, but exciting because I’m like “Who is this person I’m becoming? Because I like him!” This wave of self-discovery is opening up my eyes to new ideas that I want to express through my style which is a new side of me that’s excites me to share.

What I’m wearing: ASOS black lace shirt (similar), ASOS white shorts (here), Zara black sandals

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